How To Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
Do you have trouble with procrastination or following through on tasks until they’re done?
Do you wonder how your big vision or dream actually comes to fruition?
While some people seem to focus on one dream and accomplish it, so many struggle with procrastination or fear of success, which gets in their way of attaining their dreams.
How To Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
In today’s video on EventPlanning BlueprintTV, Dominick Quartuccio and I share how to take command of your next 90 days and how to create habits that allow you to see your bigger vision through to the end.
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In the comments below, let us know what works for you when it comes to seeing your vision through to the end so your dreams are fulfilled.
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Here’s to taking command of your next 90 days!
[00:00:00] Melanie: First of all, thank you for joining us for this fantastic, exclusive webinar – “Take Command of Your Next 90 Days.” We’re going to be talking about the surprisingly simple path to extraordinary results. And I am really, really excited to have my very dear friend and former client Dominick Quartuccio from New York City joining us today to talk about how to take command of your next 90 days. And actually to be completely transparent and honest, it’s actually the most popular webinar we’ve ever had. We’ve had more signups for this webinar than any webinar I’ve done in the last couple of years. So thank you Dominick for joining us and I’d love for you to share a bit about your story and a little bit about your recent radical Sabbatical that you just took.
[00:00:47] Dominick: All right, cool. So if this is the best attended, then obviously the stakes are much higher, so we have to deliver, Mel, right? So we’ll be on today.
[00:00:54] Melanie: Absolutely.
[00:00:55] Dominick: Yeah, so a little about my story is that I just recently left a 15-year corporate career. I was in financial services working for a Fortune 100 company and I ran a sales team for the eastern half of the country – a great career, the only company I’ve ever worked for, 5,370 days consecutive that I worked for this company. And at one point in my journey, it was about three years ago, I had this epiphany during this meditation session where I said, “You know, I would love to coach people. I would love to support people full time for my career.” And the voice in my head initially said, “Well, you can’t make as much money doing that as to what you’re doing now.” So I didn’t even really challenge that mindset. I just bought it, hook, line and sinker, so I didn’t do anything regarding that passion for the next six or so months, and I’m sure there are people who can relate to that who are listening, right? And then six months later, during a similar meditation session, I just remember saying, “Wait a minute. That’s just one possibility of an infinite number. Why don’t I try another one on?” And I remember thinking, “What if I can make 10 times as much money doing what I love to do versus where I’m at right now?” Once I took that story on, I didn’t necessarily believe it, but I just started collecting evidence for the next days and weeks and months that other people had done that before. So money became kind of a non-issue for me kind of at that point. I saw so many different paths on how to get there. And then once the money thing wasn’t there, I made the choice to say, “This is where I’m going to go.” And I had a timeline in mind. And on February 26th of this year, that was my 5,370th day and I wrapped it up. And then about four or five days later, I embarked upon what Melanie referred to as a 90-day radical Sabbatical. So Mel, where do you want me to go with that?
[00:02:57] Melanie: Oh, I don’t know. There are so many great stories to tell. So maybe just give us the highlight of what the radical Sabbatical was for you.
[00:03:04] Dominick: Okay. The reason why I did it was because I ended up meeting someone about a year ago. He was the former head of mergers and acquisition for eBay – big job. And he was on about a 12-month Sabbatical from eBay and he had told me it was one of the greatest things he had ever done. It just lit up his life and it gave him clarity and focus and I said, “That would be an amazing palate cleanser between careers.” So I designed a 90-day Sabbatical with intentionality around stretching my comfort zone, doing new experiences, seeing parts of the world I’d never had, and one of the things I did during that was a 10-day silent meditation, Melanie. No talking, no reading, no writing, no exercise, like all the things that I love to do, and it was transformational in terms of what I learned about myself. And I’ve brought that back into this new career, which it’s now about three or four weeks old.
[00:04:04] Melanie: That’s amazing. Well congratulations first of all for completing so much time at one organization. I think that is commendable, also not that common anymore, and I know that you did really well there. So to take that leap of faith into something that you’re more passionate about, and I know that a lot of the people on this webinar will relate to that story. Maybe they don’t have the exact same path and maybe they’re not going to take the 90-day radical Sabbatical, but they can relate to wanting to be doing something else rather than what they are doing.
[00:04:34] Dominick: Sure.
[00:04:35] Melanie: And you actually loved what you did. That was the funny thing about it, right?
[00:04:40] Dominick: No, what I think makes part of my story unique is that I walked away from a company I really loved, the people I had great relationships with and there were opportunities. But I thought it was really cool to be able to walk away with like love in my heart and feeling good about the relationship versus back up against the wall. And I understand that everyone is kind of in a different position in their life, but it was important for me to be able to walk out from a career and from people who had contributed so much to my life. It was important for me to walk out that way.
[00:05:13] Melanie: Yeah, I think that’s a great message. Merchelle is saying, “Absolutely.” Merchelle, I hope I pronounced your name correctly, so she’s agreeing with you. She can totally relate. And Susie is saying, “Welcome back, Dominick.”
[00:05:26] Dominick: Thank you, Susie.
[00:05:28] Melanie: Yeah, so we’ve got people on this webinar from all over the globe, mostly in the U.S. We’ve got someone from Nigeria, someone from the Dominican who now lives in Michigan. We’ve got people from Vancouver and Oklahoma and Los Angeles and Brampton, just outside my hood, San Diego, Kansas City, man – we’re all over the map – Waco, Texas, hey guys. Thanks so much for joining us. So we are going to have an action-packed hour of, as I mentioned earlier, “Taking Command of Your Next 90 Days.” So make sure you have a pen and paper or a Word doc open so that you can take some notes because Dominick is a wealth of information, and we’re going to share some stories about how we kind of kick procrastination in the butt. And if you were on earlier before we started, you heard Dominick say that he’s on how many days of no TV, no Netflix?
[00:06:24] Dominick: Today’s June 28th. I started on June 1st, so it’s 28 days of 90.
[00:06:28] Melanie: That’s amazing. I don’t know if I’m going to take that one, but I might take something else by the end of this.
[00:06:33] Dominick: All right, good.
[00:06:36] Melanie: I still love my Netflix. So Dominick, let’s get into it. So how do you create urgency so that you can see extraordinary results. Let’s not pussyfoot around here. Let’s just dive right in.
[00:06:46] Dominick: Awesome. There are three ways you can create intentional urgency and I’m going to give those to you in a second. Here’s what stands in most people’s way. Especially in the environment where I came from, the corporate world, people or companies tend to set one-year plans. You have bonuses tied to a one-year performance and you get monitored for your performance. The problem with that is there are actual studies that are being done at NYU, at UCLA and Princeton that actually have FMRI machines hooked up to your brain, and it shows something very interesting. So Melanie, if we were monitoring your brain activeness, I think of Melanie Woodward right now in this moment, your brain would light up and go crazy, right, fireworks going off. If I said, “Melanie, think about the stranger that’s outside your window right now,” your brain activity would dim and a different part of your brain would light up. If I said, “Melanie, think about yourself in the future, like a year from now,” here’s where it gets really interesting. Your brain activity would dim and a different part of your brain would light up the same way as if you were thinking about a stranger. So the implication is that when you think about your future self, you don’t relate to your future self as you. You relate to your future self as a stranger.
[00:08:03] Melanie: Oh, interesting.
[00:08:05] Dominick: It’s interesting and so that explains a lot of our behaviors where we don’t do what we should do in the moment, like we constantly make the same mistakes and then down the road, we’re like, “Ugh, why did I eat that thing?” or “Oh, here I am a year later, I’m still at the same job I didn’t want to be in.” Well it’s because intellectually, you may know that’s you in the future, but existentially, emotionally, you cannot connect to that future person. So looking forward at that point in time, it’s really hard to have urgency in the moment when you don’t relate to that person. And also, whenever we look at time in the future, think about this, time gets really distorted. When you think about time in the future, like a year from now, June 28th, 2017 seems like forever away and you can get lulled into this sense of, “I have so much time.” But if you look back on the year that just happened, you always look back and go, “God, time went so quickly.” Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:09:01] Melanie: That’s so true, isn’t it?
[00:09:05] Dominick: Right? So looking backwards at time gets smushed. Looking forward, you think you have forever and it lulls you into this false sense of security so we don’t tend to take action. So then how do you, with knowing all this stuff, how do you create intentional urgency right now? The first thing – I mentioned there are three ways – the first thing is you have to have a ticking clock of some kind. You think of any sport – sports are one of the most urgent things in context that you can imagine. There’s always a clock that’s ticking down. So you need to have a ticking clock, but that’s not enough, because having a one-year ticking clock is still a clock that’s ticking. So then the second part of creating intentional urgency is the finish line has to be in sight. So if you have a ticking clock and the finish line is in sight and I prefer to move that finish line in from 365 days to 90 days because you can probably think about the Melanie on September 28th of this year three months away versus what happens in a year from now when anything can happen. So figure out how to move that line closer so you can feel that urgency. And then the third part is creating stakes. So having stakes around, whatever it is, that thing that you want – so example, for me, I can give you some pretty extreme examples of stakes, but for me, I’ve done things like I wanted to do 90 days of no TV, no Netflix. I wanted to do 100 consecutive pushups. I wanted to do 100 days of no alcohol. And when I did those things, the stake that I set for myself was I made a public proclamation on my Facebook page, to my newsletter, to my friends, to the people who cared about me so that I hold my word above everything else and I hold being able to inspire people above everything else, so that once I put my stake in the ground around that, on the days that I felt weak or I wanted to give in or I wanted to say, “Man, no one would really notice,” well no. All those things, I had stakes attached to it so I kept the course. So those three ways of creating intentional urgency really again to reiterate, it’s a ticking clock, making sure the finish line is in sight and create some stakes that are not intimidating to you, but meaningful to you. And the last thing before I shut up, Mel, is I said intentional urgency a bunch, and there’s a difference between urgency and intentional urgency. People are running around like crazy like their hair is on fire all the time because we’re overburdened by the stuff we have taken on in our life. That’s just urgency. Intentional urgency means like you’ve actively, consciously opted into that and it’s typically related to a higher purpose, like starting your own event planning company or figuring out your exit from wherever it is you are or whatever it is that’s important to you. That’s the intentional part.
[00:12:09] Melanie: Yeah, that’s really good and I love the 90-day kind of compact type of goal setting because you’re right. And I didn’t know necessarily about the neuroscience behind it and seeing yourself as a stranger, but it just seems so much more immediate, which is what you’re saying, right? It’s that timeline, it’s having that finish line close enough to you to actually get things done.
[00:12:35] Dominick: Right on.
[00:12:36] Melanie: Yeah, and I think it’s still important, and you can tell me if this is right or wrong, I still think it’s important to set those longer term goals, but then take those and break those down into shorter term ones.
[00:12:48] Dominick: That’s right on the money. So one of the things when I coach, I say you need to have a compelling vision. And for vision, I’m using my hands kind of up here, because you have to think bigger than just 90 days, but to chunk down from that. So what could happen in a year from now intimidates people, but if you break it down into smaller chunks, the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. The Japanese are Kaizen – continuous improvement, and it’s continuous through that these little small improvements when relentlessly applied add up to big results. And so yeah, I encourage having a much bigger vision and then chunking it down to something 90 days. And then you can chunk it down even further to weekly goals and metrics and we can get into all that if it’s of interest to you too. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:13:37] Melanie: Yeah, I think it would be interesting to talk about some of that and maybe we can share some of those stories as well. Even Devin is saying, “Being held accountable is really important.” She’s going to create some stakes. Stakes are good. So let’s just talk, because sometimes you think the sheer willpower, your own willpower will get you to where you want to be, and I want to go back to some of those measuring sticks that we’ve used in the past that may help other people and you may have some new ones for us. So let’s talk about the willpower. Why doesn’t willpower work when it comes to setting goals and what does work?
[00:14:20] Dominick: Right. So willpower and discipline, these are things that we culturally hold out as great things. We say, “Oh man, you’ve got so much willpower,” or a person has discipline. And I understand why there’s that sentiment, but I think it’s misguided. Willpower and discipline are in short supply, and your tank, there’s a finite tank of that stuff. Anyone who’s ever been on a diet or anyone who’s ever trained for a marathon or trained for something physically or even just worked their asses off understands that at a certain point, you get depleted. The secret to my success is not relying on willpower and discipline. It’s relying on systems and habits and rituals. So if you start to put things in place – you can use inertia, you can use habits as your friend versus your enemy. Then life becomes easier. So what’s a practical example of that?
[00:15:26] Melanie: For creating habits?
[00:15:27] Dominick: What was that?
[00:15:28] Melanie: Were you saying a practical example for creating habits?
[00:15:31] Dominick: Yeah, a practical example would be – so I will make a distinction between rituals and habits. Rituals are what you start that lead to and become habits over time. That’s just my definition. That’s just how I coach my clients. You may have a different definition of it, so don’t get too hung up on the semantics of it. But say for example you wanted to start your day with power. Morning rituals – and Melanie, you and I have talked about this before – but morning rituals are the most important thing for me in getting my day off on the right foot. Edward Deming, who is like one of the gods of process management, he’s the one who taught Toyota how to do an efficiently produced car back when Japanese cars were the laughing stock of the world. He turned them into basically the gem. And he says that 85 percent of a process results – 85 percent of process results are determined in the first 15 percent of that process. So 85 percent of the results are determined in the first 15 percent of the process. If you think about the day, your morning is that first 15 percent
[00:16:42] Melanie: That’s right.
[00:16:43] Dominick: So if you can implement a ritual, like myself, for me it’s that I get up, I have the same healthy smoothie in the morning. I do my mindfulness practice. And really those things really contribute to getting my head right for the day, but those things I had to use discipline and willpower to create a ritual at first, because that was unnatural, and then once that took hold, you can hear a million different things – it takes 21 days, 30 days, 90 days to develop a habit – there’s actually a range and for you, it may be shorter or it may be longer. But once you get that habit in action, now in the morning, I don’t have any clutter in my mind. I just wake up, go right to my smoothie thing. I go finish that and go right to my meditation thing and then it’s like, okay, the day is upon me.
[00:17:36] Melanie: Right, so I’d love to hear from people who are listening what kinds of habits you have in the morning because I know I’m listening to Dominick and I feel like I used to have real good morning habits and they are like crap now. Like I don’t get up as early. I don’t work out in the morning. I have a smoothie as well most mornings but it’s just like, I don’t know what happened. I just got totally derailed and I haven’t got back on it. It’s always this game of, “I should do it. I should. I should. I should,” but then I don’t. And even this morning, I’m laying in bed and I had planned to get up a little earlier so I could start working out in the morning again, and sure enough, it was like I hit snooze, snooze, snooze.
[00:18:17] Dominick: Yeah, and that’s an example of your discipline and willpower getting overpowered in the moment, right?
[00:18:23] Melanie: Right, yeah. So Devin is saying that kids change things. Yeah. I can appreciate that. I don’t have any myself but I can appreciate they do change things so it’s harder when you have kids for sure. And Sharon says, “I’m with you Melanie, not sure where that derailment happened.” It does happen, but here’s the thing. I don’t really like making excuses either and I hate hearing excuses, so it’s like I’m not one of those people who will say, “Oh, in a month,” or “July 1st,” or “August 1st, this is when I’ll start.” I’m like, “No. I’m going to start now or tomorrow morning,” for example, if it’s in the afternoon. But anyways, yeah. I’m listening to you and I’m like, “The guilt is weighing on me a little bit.”
[00:19:12] Dominick: Yeah, and here’s the thing – not to make yourself wrong. So here’s where you’re at. It is what it is. And if you can really tie, if you really tie the morning ritual to something bigger that you want to accomplish, like something that’s really important to you right now, and if you were to say, “If I were to do this thing in the morning, than I would achieve X. It would have the impact of X in my life,” then that can get you to commit to, “Okay, for the next three weeks, I will make sure that I do this in the morning every morning and I will hold myself accountable. I will put stakes up around that.” Well good luck to you, Mel. I’ll check in on you in three weeks.
[00:19:50] Melanie: See, now this is my accountability. I’m accountable to everybody listening to this now and in the future and I’m okay with that. I actually have a funny story to tell you guys. Well it’s not even funny, but this has to do with Dominick. A few years ago, Dominick and I met because he was a client of mine at a company called Strategic Coach, which is where I worked for about five years in sales there. And we met each other on the phone and we became fast friends just from our conversations. And I happened to be in New York one year and I think it was your birthday, Dominick, and I had decided on the plane, I was kind of feeling sorry for myself on the plane ride to New York, and I couldn’t figure out why. I was like, you know, I have a really great life. I do everything I want. If I have anything on the bucket list, I check it off. And what I soon realized was that that was the problem. I did everything I wanted to do and I was just feeling a little bit unfulfilled. And you know, this passes. Everyone goes through these peaks and valleys. So I ended up going to Dominick’s for his birthday party, met some of his fantastic friends and I was telling one of his friends, Mike, I believe, that I was going to train for a half marathon. And I am not a runner. I do not consider myself a runner. I’ve never run more than 10 kilometers or six miles in my life, and I don’t actually enjoy it. The next thing I know, Mike, and you may have been part of this conversation, Dominick, either Mike or both of you convinced me to run the New York Marathon a year later. And it just so happened that the New York Marathon was actually happening that next day. And I don’t know what possessed me to actually go home and three days later, I was signed up to run a marathon. But the reason I’m bringing this up is because it all comes down to these baby steps, and for me, it was literally baby steps. The idea of running a marathon, it actually gives me a little bit of anxiety now because there’s no way I can do it now. I haven’t been running in close to two years because I still don’t enjoy it. But it was setting those small attainable goals to get there and to be able to run it and to be able to run that amount of distance within four or five hours. It’s just so crazy, but you’re so right. If you look back over that year, like if I think about that year that I did all that training, it seems like it happened in a flash, and it just seems so attainable now. Now I know what I need to do to do that, but looking forward, it was extremely overwhelming. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:22:23] Dominick: Right?
[00:22:24] Melanie: So the reason I’m bringing this up is not only to talk about the baby steps and the looking back over something versus looking forward, which I think is an important distinction, but also that when you’re starting an event planning business, which we talk a lot about at eventplanningblueprint.com, it seems insurmountable sometimes because you don’t necessarily know all the pieces that you need in order to get started, in order to get clients, in order to make money, in order to plan a perfect event or a successful event. I don’t think I’ve planned any events that were perfect. This is why I want to bring it out, because it’s sometimes just breaking it down to these smaller chunks, these one-week goals, these daily goals, these 90-day goals, these one-year goals, which I would love to talk about a little bit more now. You mentioned you had some tips or strategies for that kind of stuff. So maybe this is a good time to go into that.
[00:23:20] Dominick: Awesome, Mel. And if I get caught up because you were getting a little bit caught up at the end there, just let me know if I have to repeat anything. Let me know.
[00:23:30] Melanie: Okay, sounds good.
[00:23:31] Dominick: Cool. Yeah, I think your analogy and your story about the marathon is a phenomenal one. So for anyone who’s listening to this, you can start to think about if you want to begin your own company, and it may seem like from where you are to where it is, there’s like a chasm. It’s like so big that it’s hard to wrap your arms around it. That’s understandable. It’s the same thing that Melanie did from someone who wasn’t running and the furthest she’s ever run was six miles to do 26.2 miles, that’s the same kind of chasm. But like, yeah, when I went through my process of leaving a 15-year corporate career to a place where there’s no income, I had to figure out a bunch of small little steps. So the first thing is, if you’re thinking about the longer-term plan, like me and maybe in your situation, it’s starting your own company, leaving wherever you’re at, that’s the ultimate end destination. Okay, well then if you’re going to get there, let’s chunk it back to the 90 days. What has to happen over the next 90 days in order for you to make meaningful progress, like impactful progress towards that overarching goal? And then let me see if I can use a real life example, and tell me if this is helpful, Melanie, and the rest of the folks who are chiming in on the side. So for example, if you are a salesperson – I know this is not particular to your demographic – but let’s just say a salesperson has a revenue goal of $100,000 over the next 90 days. The salesperson can’t control whether or not they get that $100,000. What they can control are their action steps that can lead to that outcome. So what that salesperson could do is they could do 120 meetings over the next 90 days with key decision makers. That salesperson could host three webinars [00:25:28 – 00:25:30] and that salesperson could do one more thing – I don’t know, hold an event in their hometown, something like that. Now that person has total control over the meetings, over the webinars, over the event, and then you chunk that down to, “Okay, I have 90 days to do these things. What do I need to do in week one?” Okay, week one is in front of me. I’m probably not going to get a lot of meetings done this week, but I need to schedule 20 for next week. So for this week, my goal is to schedule 20 quality meetings for next week. And if I have to have one webinar a month, that means I have to schedule my first webinar for let’s say the last week of this month, and I need to learn how to launch a webinar. I need to learn by the end of this week what kind of software I’m using and what the content will be. And then those are the key things that you have to do. You create and carve time on your calendar where those are the only things that you do during that time. You shut down your phone. You shut down everything else that could be a distraction and you get that done. At the end of the week, you look at that one week thing and say, “Did I hit these goals or not?” And if you didn’t, then you have to quickly move that to next week and make that part of your week two goal, but you just do these small little increments that chip away at that 90-day of running webinars, 120 meetings and doing an event in your hometown. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:26:53] Melanie: Yeah, I totally agree. And I think it’s also good to point out that you mentioned that if it doesn’t happen in that week, a lot of people will feel discouraged and they’ll just abandon it. It’s really, really important to just start over again and move those things and give yourself permission to move those things. I think that’s one of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned is that it’s okay to move those goals forward. They don’t always happen exactly when you set them, even though it is important, as you mentioned earlier in your three pieces for urgency, is that you do need to have that timeframe, but it doesn’t always happen in that timeframe, and that’s okay. And so you know, a couple of people are saying, Kishan actually said, “My biggest problem is fear of failure,” which is a big thing. It’s very common for people. Or fear of success is equally as common, maybe just not talked about as much. So how do you kind of tackle that when it comes to goal setting? I guess that gets more into the confidence and neuroscience of it, but do you have any tips?
[00:28:00] Dominick: Yeah, so I would say that I’m 37 years old, and for the first 30 years of my career, I was fear driven. And fear can be quite a motivator, like fear of failure, and I was pretty successful with fear of failure as my motivator. It also made winning a lot less fun, and it also made me really conservative in the things that I took on, and it prevented me from going after the things that I really wanted. So I had to really take a deep introspective look at what was causing this fear of failure to persist, and we all have stories from our upbringing of where we got that kind of programming or that messaging, but for me, it just boiled down to nothing more than “I want to look good. I don’t want to look bad. I want people to think that I’m great at what I do. I don’t want them to think I suck at what I do.” And when I was just really honest with myself about that, then I started to unpack that and say, “Am I going to let what other people’s perceptions are really start to affect the things that matter most to me in my life?” Easier said than done, and there were times that fear certainly kicks in and I regress and I don’t go as progressive as I like to. Perfect example of this, Melanie, was last week, I launched my brand new website and I had a timeline, like I knew I wanted to get it out by June 21st and things got held up in delivery and development, and I knew that there were going to be mistakes on my website. I knew there were going to be mistakes. But I said, “Something done is something better than perfect.”
[00:29:38] Melanie: Absolutely.
[00:29:40] Dominick: And I sent this thing out on all my social sites and on my newsletter and I said to everyone, “Hey, here’s the new website. Enjoy the brand new pictures. Enjoy some statistics and note how many mistakes I’ve made and help me point those out.” And I can tell you that what I got back was I got dozens of people who’ve helped me fix it and figure it out because people do want to naturally help and support me. So I had fun with it. I can totally empathize with the fear of failure part, but after a while, don’t you get tired of it? Don’t you get tired of not playing that game you want to play so much? So yeah, I would just say, go for it. Have some fun. And here’s the last thing – not as many people are paying attention to you as you think they are.
[00:30:25] Melanie: That’s so true. No one really cares.
[00:30:27] Dominick: They don’t really care.
[00:30:31] Melanie: They’re too wrapped up in their own world and themselves.
[00:30:34] Dominick: They’re too wrapped up in their own… And so don’t let that discourage you either, but like seriously, people are not paying as much attention as you think they are. So if that is a concern to you around the fear of failure, then put that under rest. [00:30:49] Melanie: Absolutely. I totally agree. And Kishan, I’m bringing you up because you’re the first person who mentioned the fear of failure. If you have been following me for any amount of time, then you will have probably heard me say this or tell you this story before, and for those of you who are new – my very first event, I actually lost money on it because I just didn’t realize, like I underestimated all of the pieces and the time, mostly the time that it took me to plan this specific event, and I could have packed it in, and I was discouraged. I’m not going to lie. I was like, “What business do I have planning events or having an event planning business or even saying – like I have no business handing out these cards anymore.” And I just thought, “You know what? Screw it. I lost money on this event. I learned from it and I’m going to move on,” and it was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. And so was it a failure? Sure. Probably I guess it would be seen as a failure. The event was great itself, but I guess it’s a failure at the beginning and it isn’t anymore. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:31:55] Dominick: You know what? What you just said reminded me of one of the most empowering mindsets that you could ever have, and it’s that there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback.
[00:32:05] Melanie: Oh, I love that, Dominick. Love it.
[00:32:07] Dominick: And then what you got is you got a lot of feedback around, “Okay, certain things worked but I lost money on it,” so there was a lot of feedback. And if you adopt that mindset of just curiosity versus thinking that there are life or death situations that are attached to these things, and you’re like, “Okay, that sucked. I lost money, but maybe I can reposition this as a – let’s just say that’s tuition.”
[00:32:33] Melanie: Absolutely. Yeah, that helped me to realize what areas I was really good at and what areas I needed to improve on or delegate so that I could become better, and so I get the fear of failure, but sometimes you need to take that first step. And a couple of people have asked and said, “I don’t know how to start.” I’m going to actually give you a discount on the Event Planning Blueprint toolkit today, so I’m going to put this in the column because for anyone who is just starting out who wants to plan events, if you’ve been planning events for a while, that’s not the product for you, but if you are just starting out like Paolo and a few others, Vera and a few others had mentioned that they’re stuck as well, and I saw somebody else – sorry, I forget whose name – someone said something about they were in Michigan and maybe it was Whitney, but someone was in Michigan and I think they said they needed contracts and licenses for it seems like everything, so that might help you as well. It doesn’t get into contracts or licensing – you have to figure that out locally, but that will help you. So go ahead, you guys can click on that and this is only valid until tomorrow at 5 p.m. Eastern time and only for live viewers. So if you’re watching the recording, I apologize, this is not available anymore. So Ruth is saying, “That’s my problem – delegating.” Well we get into a whole episode on Facebook Live about delegating. I have some topics here and if you guys haven’t joined me on Facebook Live, then make sure you head on over to our Facebook page and like the page and turn on the notifications, because I’m doing a lot more Facebook Live videos. So who is it here – Ruth, I would be happy to talk more about delegating because I’m actually really good at it and I love giving other people work. It takes it off my plate. So back to some of these techniques about goal setting, and I know we’ve got lots of questions about different things and that’s totally cool. I will address them, but we may not talk about them today. So those will be saved for Facebook Live videos or blog posts. So Dominick, let’s just talk about – I feel like I’m flipping back and forth a little bit, but I did want to ask you a little more about accountability and why it’s important to goal setting.
[00:34:57] Dominick: Sure. So accountability is really kind of the heart of goal setting. So if you’re not measuring your success or measuring your progress towards the goals that you’re looking at achieving, and if there’s no accountability system, then it’s easy to abandon your efforts when things can tough. It’s easy to give up when you get your first “failure,” which we now know is just feedback. And accountability, I feel like accountability is a very personal thing. Ultimately, accountability lies within the individual. You may think that someone else is holding you accountable but it’s really kind of you are kind of holding yourself accountable, and maybe you see that person as someone who gives you the energy to stay accountable or on your path. But if you can cultivate your own internal sense of accountability, that’s the strongest. That’s the most enduring. And then you become least dependent on external conditions or environmental factors for your success. So accountability kind of goes back to the stakes that I was talking about before when you’re looking at creating urgency. This is one that I’m sure that will set off a few alarm bells in here, but I just signed a client yesterday whom he is 98 days away from his wedding and we’re doing a 90-day program, and he’s like, “Dude, I’m so out of shape. I look like crap. I feel like crap. I can’t go take the altar looking like this. What can you do for me?” And I’m not a trainer, but I don’t need to be. So we’re going to put him on a program, but here’s how we’re going to propose the stakes for him, and his friend is colluding on this. We’re going to have him take a picture in his boxer briefs with his current body, which he’s not happy with, and that if he doesn’t hit his goal in the 90 days, that his friend is authorized to post that to Facebook. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:36:57] Melanie: Oh wow. So is he authorized to post it before or after?
[00:37:02] Dominick: It’s if in 90 days, if he doesn’t do what he said he was going to do – it’s not necessarily like a weight number, because you may not be able to control the weight number, but you control your actions. We’re more interesting in is he taking the right actions? Is he following through? And for him, that creates a sense of accountability, not to mention he’s got a wife, a future wife who’s going to be waiting on the altar for him. That’s a pretty big sense of accountability there too, but those things, like we’re being playful with it, but there’s a stake in the ground around it, and you better believe he’s going to work his ass off, even when he’s tired and when he wants to give up. He’s not going to let that picture go anywhere.
[00:37:44] Melanie: Yeah, I’m getting lots of people in my chat box saying, “Haha, love it. Haha, LOL.” It really is fantastic. But he’s found his motivation. That’s the great part. So his motivation, it sounds like, or his accountability isn’t just to his future wife or his fiancée, but to those pictures that he’s going to have to look at for the rest of his life.
[00:38:02] Dominick: Right. Right on.
[00:38:05] Melanie: Yeah, so it’s really important. There are a few people who mentioned in the chat box that they have kids and sometimes the morning ritual is difficult when you have kids. I can appreciate it because I have a lot of friends with kids and mornings can be chaotic. But at the same time, maybe your kids are your motivation for getting your event planning business started or starting to do what you really love doing, and brings up those passions in your life more. And why not involve your kids? Kids are a great resource, depending on their age of course, but they’re a great resource and they always love spending time with you and they always love helping. That’s how I learned how to cook. I loved being with my grandmother, being with my aunts, being with my mom, and from a very young age, even though I probably shouldn’t have had a knife in my hand per se, I’m not sure they gave me one – just want to point that out there to save my mom from any hate mail – but they’re a great source. So if you have kids, just get them involved and do what you want to do. So Dominick, have we missed anything that is really important that you think everybody should know about?
[00:39:14] Dominick: Yes. I think the last thing that I would really emphasize hard is execution is really kind of where the rubber meets the road. So if you think about if I were to draw two circles on the screen here, you have knowledge on one circle and you have action in another circle and they’re mutually exclusive. You can know all the right things to do and you can read all the right things to do and etc., etc., but until you take action and implement, then things just don’t happen. And now execution is typically the hardest part of any kind of big thing that we take on, so you have to have some sort of framework, some sort of structure, and that’s why what you’re doing, Melanie, with your blueprint process is so powerful. You can give people a structure that’s proven to follow, and that’s one of the things I do. If someone wants to do something with a 90-day period, my structure is creating your goal for the 90 days. What are the action steps you have control over? Okay, we’re going to chunk that down to a week goals and then we execute just day in and day out against that one-week goal. And then we just accumulate towards that 90-day thing, and it’s all this Kaizen, this continuous improvement, small steps that get you to that 26.2-mile marathon or that gets you to leaving the company that’s employed you and then opening up your own business or realizing your dream. It sounded like when we were talking before this call, Melanie, that people here are on this call or on this webinar because they want to pursue their dreams. You want to pursue your dream. And so executing is the way to get there. And many times it’s not as hard as you think. It’s just that you have to show up and follow the process. And follow it and once you do it, then things will happen. I’m not a genius, but I’ve figured it out just from listening to the people who know and I’ve follow their footsteps and executed and I’ve gotten to where I want to be with my business, my career. So execute. Execute.
[00:41:26] Melanie: Absolutely. I think that is the single most important piece of all of it is the execution, and it’s the piece that people fall off on or they just don’t do altogether.
[00:41:40] Dominick: Right on. Right on.
[00:41:42] Melanie: Yeah, and so I kind of use a lot of my own tools to help me stay on track. Do you have any tools that you would recommend that you use that maybe people can go to Amazon or somewhere or your website?
[00:41:58] Dominick: Yeah. You can always go to my website, which is DominickQ.com, but I don’t have any tools that I would say are listed there. So you’re talking about like organizational tools?
[00:42:06] Melanie: Yeah. Just things that work to what we’re talking about.
[00:42:11] Dominick: I’m really old school, so with respect to this, I don’t use any apps. What I have on my kitchen countertop, I have really three lists. They’re short. They’re like little long post-it notes. One list is called my success list. So people have to-do lists, but to-do lists don’t discriminate what the most important priorities are versus the incremental things you have to do. And typically when those things get lost in the shuffle, we’re these dopamine addicts and we want to cross things off on our lists, what do we do? We cross the easiest stuff off first? It’s like email, make this phone call, like that doesn’t do anything but you’re feeling good because half the list is disappearing, except half the stuff that’s still there is like the most important stuff. So I have my success list, which is usually no more than three to five things, and those things have to happen in a week. That’s like chunked down to my weekly goal.
[00:43:08] Melanie: Yeah.
[00:43:09] Dominick: And then I have a to-do list, which is typically a daily list, and I review that every night before I go to bed, and that’s kind of the stuff I do during the day when I wake up in my morning for my morning ritual. The third list that I have is kind of like a parking lot. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:43:24] Melanie: Whoops.
[00:43:26] Dominick: Sorry?
[00:43:30] Melanie: Can you just go back to your daily list?
[00:43:31] Dominick: The to-do list?
[00:43:35] Melanie: Yeah, I just want to make sure. We lost audio so is anyone else having trouble hearing us? Can you guys hear? Just put this in the bar if you can just let us know quickly. I think you’re okay now, Dominick, if you want to go ahead and just… Okay, that’s fantastic. Thanks. Oh Susanna says no, Xavier says yes. I’m not sure what is happening with some people having the ability to hear and some don’t, so if you’re unable to hear – “Yes a bit, I can hear, it’s a little choppy,” – so sometimes it does, with Webinar Jam or any of these webinar services, they do cut in and out, so you may have to refresh if you’ve lost sound completely, which I guess I’m talking out loud and they can’t hear me. “Yeah, I’m having the same problems.” Anyways, we’ll start it up so you can start where you were about on the daily lists.
[00:44:25] Dominick: Yeah, the to-do list is something that gives me my focus for the day and so I know what I need to get by the end of that particular day. And then I have a third and final list, which is just a parking lot, so things that come up over the course of the day that I know I need to get to eventually, but they’re not urgent – I know I don’t need to do them today, I know I don’t need to do it by the end of the week, but I don’t want to lose sight of it, so I have a running parking lot list. And I put it in a place where every morning, that’s what I see, so instantly, when I’m having my breakfast before I meditate, those are the things that I look at and review so I know what my day is going to be like.
[00:45:03] Melanie: Yeah, and I love that you put them in a spot that you’re always going to see them, something that’s in front of you all the time, whether it’s on your fridge or in your kitchen, like you have them. The other thing is that I think – well there are a couple of things [00:45:15-00:45:20]. I don’t like putting it in apps because then you never look at it again or you don’t see it every day. So just as an example, I think that the key is to really find a system that works for you. Just because it works for me doesn’t mean it’s going to work for Dominick or vice versa or anyone, Trisha might have her system, Vera might have her own system, Susanna’s got to know her own system. So I’m happy to share with you what we use, but it’s really up to you to find what works for you. And maybe some of these ones will work. I love that you have your success criteria right in your kitchen. I never even thought about doing that. For me, I have a dream board in my bedroom, so I like the visuals and the pictures and the words, so if that’s mine, maybe I should move it to my kitchen because I spend more time in the kitchen. But the other thing I was going to show you, I don’t think I have it anywhere nearby, but a couple of other ones that I do – yeah, a vision board for me. Jennifer does a vision board as well. Awesome. I love vision boards – here’s a one-year planner than I use. And so I write out 10 to 12 goals, never more than that, and they range in topics, right? So they can be spiritual, they can be business, they can be personal, they can be travel and adventure, they can be just about anything if you want to pocket them into financial things, you can do that too – and then breaking those down into 30-day increments, so that it’s like quarterly, just for those ones, and then taking those ones and then breaking those down into monthly or weekly goals.
[00:46:54] Dominick: Yeah, right on. And you know, around the goals, Melanie, that you’re talking about, I saw someone had mentioned, “I have a hard time figuring out which goals to go for,” and I think a lot of people find themselves in that category, and here’s what I would suggest if you’re having difficulties finding out which goals are right for you.
[00:47:12] Melanie: Yeah.
[00:47:13] Dominick: Where I feel most people get caught up is they say something like, “I want to learn how to speed-read,” or “I want to lose 25 pounds,” and then, “I want to speak another language.” Okay. That’s where people stop. But where you need to go is you need to future pace that. So now you’ve learned how to speed-read, you speak the other language, you’ve lost 25 pounds. How is your life different? What impact has that brought in your life? What does that bring? So if you’ve lost 25 pounds and now you’re off of all your medications and now you can fit into the dress you’ve been dying to wear for years, and now that you’re vibrant, whatever. Now you speak another language and it’s opened up another job opportunity for you or you get to go to Italy, which you’ve always wanted to do. It’ll transform your life and you’ll have a magical, romantic experience with the person that you love. Now if those things, if you really start to future pace that and all of a sudden you start to feel inspired and now you’re lit up and you’re vibrating, that’s probably the right goal for you. But there was a guy last night who I was coaching and he was like, “I want to learn how to speed-read,” and it’s been on his thing forever. And then I said, “Okay, once you learn how to speed-read, how does that impact your life?” And he was like, “Huh, not much.” And I was like, “Well that’s why you haven’t done it. It’s probably why you shouldn’t do it. So let’s think about the next thing.” So yeah, I think that probably should help whoever it was that made the measurement.
[00:48:37] Melanie: Yeah, so thank you so much for bringing that up, because Ruth, I did mean to bring that up as well, so I’m glad Dominick saw it and remembered it, because I thought that was a great question as well. But you’re so right. There has to be a motivating factor or a reason for you to want to do something. You’ve got to find that drive within sometimes. No problem – Ruth’s saying thank you. No problem, Ruth. Our pleasure. So I love that you really brought the question up but also pointed that out. Yeah, so I had a thought about it and I completely lost my train of thought. But that’s okay. It happens. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:49:12] Dominick: I picked you up. I got you.
[00:49:13] Melanie: Yeah, you totally did. I know. I need that from people sometimes.
[00:49:18] Dominick: A lot. No, I’m just kidding.
[00:49:19] Melanie: Yeah, I need it a lot. I own it. So okay, we’re just about done here, so a couple of things just before we go. I just want to go back to quickly talk about a couple of things or points or ways to create habits, but I also want to point out that for anyone who’s just getting started, if you haven’t already joined us on Facebook, make sure you do that – Facebook.com/EventPlanningBlueprint and turn on the notifications. You have to like the page and turn on the notifications because we will be doing a lot of Facebook Live videos moving forward. So head on over there. If you’re just getting started, I’m offering a webinar promotion for all those live on the webinar right now. And so this is valid until tomorrow, which is Wednesday, June 29th at 5 p.m. and that’s for the Event Toolkit. I’ve put it into the chat box so you can just simply click on the link and then the webinar code is just “webinardq” after our good friend Dominick Quartuccio. So “webinardq” is the code to get that promotion. I apologize if you’re watching this as a recording that is not available any longer. So going back to habits, let’s just give a quick, kind of maybe some points or tips or strategies about how to create good habits, and then we will wrap this up and then answer any questions. So if anyone has questions, now is a good time to start putting them in. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:50:45] Dominick: All right, cool. So kind of going back to the conversation about rituals beget your habits, so if you want to create a new habit around whatever it is, like maybe getting up and working on your business or whatever, then commit to a period of time where you are going to do something at the same time every day. Maybe it’s before you go to bed, maybe it’s during lunch, maybe it’s right when you wake up, whatever works for you, but just know that it kind of has to follow some sort of pattern so that your body and your physiology and your mindset can fall into a certain rhythm that requires less of your discipline and your willpower. Over time, that will turn into a habit. If you already have an existing habit but you’re looking to kind of tweak it or change it, there’s a great book called “The Power of Habit.” You don’t need to read the whole thing, but if you were just to Google it and see kind of the cycle of how it works, it’s basically there’s typically a stimulus that happens. It’s 3 o’clock and I’m tired. Then it triggers a response. I go get a coffee or a bag of Skittles. And then you hit the pay off. So there’s a stimulus, it triggers a response and you get your pay off. And maybe you don’t like the fact you’re going after the coffee at 3 o’clock or you’re going for the Skittles at 3 o’clock, but you need something, because that 3 o’clock happens every day. Then the goal there is to kind of manipulate whatever your response is. So for example, if you’re tired at 3 o’clock, maybe you need to get up and walk around. Or maybe you need to call and talk to somebody and that will reinvigorate you in a different way, in a healthier way than the coffee or the Skittles. You still get your pay off. So if you have a habit right now that is not serving you, you can still leverage that. You’re going to need to change whatever your response is and that again will take time for the habit to catch. It will probably take some discipline or willpower at first, but once you’ve got that thing locked and loaded, then you’ll have the stimulus, your new response and the reward at the end of that. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:52:53] Melanie: Nice. I like that a lot. And one thing that I want to mention that really helped me or does help me when I’m trying to create new habits, I list out the habits and it kind of goes back to what you were saying, Dominick. I list out why I want that habit or how it’s going to benefit me, but then I also don’t change anymore than two habits at one time. So like Dominick said earlier, there are conversations around how long it takes to create a new habit. Some people say 21 says, some say 30, some say 40. I think you also said that it changes for different people, so different strokes for different folks. But for me, if I try and create too many habits all at once, it ends up getting overwhelming. So here’s an example with weight loss, since we’re going back to your friend, right? You don’t want to – and I just had this conversation with a friend of mine who wants to lose 100 pounds, and she’s got an extremely stressful job. She’s a lawyer and she’s extremely successful and she’s got a lot of friends, but she just doesn’t take care of herself. So she’s like, “I’m going to drink more water. I’m going to change my diet. I’m only going to eat these salads and proteins. I’m going to go for a walk,” and I’m like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa. That’s way too much. You can’t change everything because you’re disrupting your entire life. Pick one or two things, stick with those until they’re a habit, and then change something else.” So the process may be a little bit slower, but it’s more successful, and at least that’s my experience.
[00:54:18] Dominick: Yeah. You’re talking about those “get some upgrades, get some wins, lock them in, add,” and again, that’s Kaizen, the art of incremental but relentless improvement. And by doing it that way that you just suggested, it will be fun for her, versus what she was proposing is going to be miserable. And when she thinks about anytime of maintaining that weight, it’s going to occur to her as kind of this albatross versus doing it the way you suggested, she gets some wins under her belt and then she can get bolder as she gets momentum and evidence that she can do it. Yeah, right on regarding that habit strategy.
[00:54:55] Melanie: Yeah, so I just wanted to throw that out because I know a lot of people try to tackle a whole bunch of things at one time and it’s really just like, keep it simple. The big picture can seem overwhelming at times, but if you just break it down like we’ve been talking about for the last hour into those smaller goals, take the big goals, break them all down, you’ll have much more success, and you will have more fun, which I think everything should be fun. I don’t get this whole “everything has to be serious” thing. I don’t subscribe to that, even in weight loss, you know? And trust me, I’m getting older and I’m starting to suffer through this. I’m like, “Wait a second, I can’t just stop eating a bag of chips for a few days and lose five pounds? When did that happen?” It was so easy. It’s not so much anymore. So I can appreciate these small things. Anyways, so Reni is asking, so she’s not a morning person but is a mission to begin waking up at 4:30 or 5 a.m. to begin her day and get started. So she’s asking – I’m not sure if she’s asking you or me, but we can both comment – if we’re early risers and if so, what are the benefits?
[00:56:02] Dominick: Yeah, for me, 6 o’clock is as early as I’d like to get up, but there are times for sure where I get up at 5 or 5:30 where I have to. The benefits are immeasurable because you’re as clear as day on what you need to get done. You have minimal distractions. And if you were going to get up and start working at that time in the morning, the quickest way to submarine your own efforts is to check your email or to check your text messages. You’ve got to keep that off because that’ll make you completely reactive. Your mindset will then be thrown off and you’ll have mental clutter. If you’re going to get up early and you’re going to be productive, know exactly what you are going to do before that time before you go to bed the night before. You have to because when you wake up the next morning, you’re kind of aimless and directionless, then you’re going to go to kind of your default, which is probably like checking the news or checking the emails and texts, and you’ve already blown that time. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:57:00] Melanie: Yeah. Yeah. I agree. And you know, earlier I said I’m not getting up as early as I like to be and so first of all, I’m going to commit to getting earlier and four times a week, I’m going to start doing weights for at least half an hour. Yeah, because I really love working out. I’ve just been working from home and working from coffee shops and other offices. I’ve just kind of gotten out of the habit of it, so it’s really important for me to get back on that one. But Reni, to your point about waking up in the morning, that’s actually how I got Event Planning Blueprint started was that I worked a full-time job and I had a number of other things going on, but it was so important to me to get this business started and to be able to create my own path and live my passion. I loved what I was doing, much like Dominick – he loved a job that he absolutely loved – I loved the company I worked for, but I had bigger dreams and I wanted something else for myself, so I would wake up at 5 in the morning and I would start working. I would do three hours of work before I actually went to my job. And often, I would come home and do it again. So mornings, I love them, and when I was training for the marathon, same thing. I would get up and I would run in the morning. It’s such a peaceful time of day. It’s my favorite time of day and I wouldn’t say I’m necessarily a morning person, but it is my favorite time of day.
[00:58:25] Dominick: I’m with you on that. It’s a challenge for me too, but definitely the most important, again, if you go back to the 85 percent of your results happen in the first 15 percent of the process, and if you believe in that, which it’s been proven out over time, then the morning is really the way where you start your day.
[00:58:42] Melanie: Yeah, it is. Absolutely. And I’m trying to think, just to help you Reni, just a few things. I think at the end of the day, you have to really find your motivation, that why – why do you want to wake up that early? What is important to you? For me, it was starting my event business, my online business, or running the marathon. It might be something different for you, so you kind of have to find why you want to do it in order to actually make yourself get up in the morning. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s going to happen. It doesn’t for me anyways. So a couple more comments and questions – Merchelle is saying, “I find it harder to be motivated to start an event business when you have a secure, full-time job that you are not passionate about, but the money is there to cover your bills. It’s a challenge.” Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[00:59:30] Dominick: Well Merchelle, that’s where I was. I had a great paying job and I had people who really – I could have done a number of different things that were there. My future was set up well. But I also knew that if I were to be there and spend another five, 10 years there that I wouldn’t be happy. And you know how I talk about, again – I’m hammering in this point – the Kaizen, the art of incremental improvement, it kind of holds the same way for deterioration, like incremental deterioration over time. If you stay in a place you’re not passionate about, then little by little by little, the light just kind of goes out inside of you. The motivation declines every single year. It becomes harder and harder and harder to make a big change, because we become more risk averse over time. So the question I would really pose to you is this. How badly do you want that business? What would that do for you if you were to have that business? And for me, I actually looked at the financial instability part of it as kind of a game, a challenge, an exciting part of it where I knew that if I just executed, I would make a business of this for myself, but to see what I was made of, because I’d never actually been in this situation before, and I knew, I was very clear that if I was working full time, 100 percent of my time with the people I loved doing what I loved, that my life would be lit up for the rest of my life. And for you, you have to know that if this event planning business, running it on your own, are you committed to it or are you interested in it? There’s a big distinction in it. Are you interested in doing something like that or are you committed to a new lifestyle. And if you’re committed to it, then I would say it might not be as hard as you think to leave that secure full time job if you start laying some ground work over a longer period of time.
[01:01:31] Melanie: Yeah, absolutely. So I moved my head quickly because I had a quote on my board here, which is not there right now because it faded – I had it so long and I think I was going to rewrite it and I haven’t done that, but I wanted to share that. Anyways, I can’t find it and we have a visitor. My cat, Oliver, has now come in to say hello. He’s like clockwork – 4 o’clock in the afternoon, he’s here and he’s like, “Give me some love, mama.” Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[01:01:52] Dominick: It’s a habit.
[01:01:53] Melanie: It’s a habit. So yeah, Merchelle is saying, “It would make me feel alive or more alive.” She loves events. “That’s so true. Cool, thanks.” Yeah, you know that holy buffet, I think you’re right. You need to lay the groundwork and make sure that you have some security there for yourself. Maybe you have a separate account set up that you start putting some money away so that you have a safety net for yourself to make you feel okay. But I’m telling you, there’s nothing that will kick your butt more than just that fear of “where is my next dollar coming from?” And I’m not saying to go up and quit your job today. That’s not what I’m saying at all. I think you do need to have a bit of a safety net and have things set up and some clients as well, but you don’t need a big fancy website. You don’t need big fancy business cards. You don’t need to spend all that money before you get clients. Go and get clients, and if you don’t have any right now and if you’re not sure if you have any experience, go volunteer somewhere and find some. That’s how I got started.
[01:02:53] Dominick: Awesome.
[01:02:54] Melanie: Yeah, so Idella is saying, “Thanks for asking the questions, Merchelle.” Yes, thank you, Merchelle. Awesome. All right everyone. We are going to wrap it up here. We are on the hour here. So Dominick, thank you so much for sharing your insights with us. We really appreciate it. This has been a fantastic webinar. You are a wealth of knowledge and I really appreciate that you took the time out of your very busy day to come and share with us today. So where can we find you if someone is interested in finding out more about my friend DQ as I lovingly refer to him?
[01:03:27] Dominick: Yeah, actually since we’ve talked so much about habits, on my website, you can download an e-book that I wrote. It’s about a 37-page e-book. It’s really, really nicely designed. I had one of the most talented designers design it. You can go to my website, DominickQ.com, DominickQ.com. You can download that for free. And there, you’ll be able to see all my social media links. I have a YouTube channel and the newsletter that I have on a weekly basis. If you download my e-book, you’ll be on my weekly newsletter, and so you’ll get more tips all around on how to have a 90-day focus, how to execute and strategy. And Mel, I’ll type in the web address. Take Command of Your Next 90 Days
[01:04:15] Melanie: Fantastic. Thank you for that. [01:04:20 – 01:04:40].
[01:04:40] Dominick: Yeah, and we’re getting cut out here, so I might just type it out here, Melanie.
[01:04:48] Melanie: …Just in case it’s only on your end, you never know. Paolo is saying, “Thank you both so much.” Cici says, “Wow, thank you.” Idella says, “Thank you.” Thank you guys for joining us. I’m so happy you’re here, lots of happy face. So the quote is “85 percent of the results are determined in the first 15 percent of the process.” So the first 15 percent is the most important 15 percent, so you will see – just focus on those baby steps and I will guarantee you will see much success in whatever it is you are wanting to do, starting an event planning business, plan events, get some volunteer work, a number of other things that could be happening. Sharnice says, “Thank you.” Elva says, “Thank you.” Karen says, “Thank you.” I’m saying thank you. all right, everyone. Have a fantastic day and we will see you again. One last time, thank you Dominick and for all of those who want to join us on our live video streaming, head on over to Facebook.com/EventPlanningBlueprint. Like our page and turn on those notifications so that you get notified when I am on live, and I will be doing a lot of those videos. So thanks so much, Maura, Ida, Tarina, there are so many people. Thank you all. So have a good day everyone.
[01:06:12] Dominick: Thank you, take care.